The Matrimonial Journal or Diary

The Matrimonial Journal or Diary

An Essay, by

J. C. Jenkins Jr

The Guide to any Relationship is free and open Communication. When Communication fails, so too does the Relationship.

J. C. Jenkins Jr.

4/19/2022

Dear Reader. Let me first begin by confessing. I have never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship other than Friendship. Nor have I ever kissed a girl. This is due to the Mental and Psychological Disabilities I was born with. What I have learned about true love or relationships I learned by watching TV or reading Paranormal Romance Novels.

In such novels, I have learned about true love or being in a relationship. Yes, you will read about such terms as “Fated” or “One True Mate.”

In these novels, I base my thoughts on what a Marriage or Relationship should be. What works for the Couple, and what doesn’t work for the Couple. If you read Paranormal Romance Novels, you know what I am talking about and the message I am trying to convey.

In this Essay, I will try to help those in need and who need a little encouragement in their Marriage, and hopefully, they will not end in Divorce or, God forbid, death. My goal is to help you, the readers, use this Essay as a Guide to a Better Life.

I have watched so many real-life and fictional shows. And watching these shows, I have seen what leads to the Failure of a marriage—and even the deaths of loved ones. And that reason is the Failure of free and open Communication. When Communications between loved ones fail, so too does the Relationship.

My reading and studies in Real Life and Fictional Works and Stories have led me to try and make a difference in the Reader’s lives. I hope I can save your Relationship by reading this Essay and practicing it in your lives. I hope I can save your Relationship and, yes, even your lives if all else fails.

I have read many Novels in my lifetime of 41 years at the time of this writing. Many of those stories have to do with Relationships. What would a novel be without Relationships and Marriages? Let’s face it; Relationships make the story enjoyable.

The best stories are Epic Tales, and they go back as far as Homer’s The Iliad and The Odyssey. The Iliad and The Odyssey come in two forms. Versified and Prose I prefer the Prose. They are longer and more enjoyable. I still need to finish these tales one day, but I started, The Iliad and hope to finish the two great works one day.

I do a lot of reading, and sometimes I do a lot of writing. I hope to start writing more than I do at the moment. I have a lot of tales to tell and wish to tell them one day, and I hope that you have a chance to read them one day.

My point is; Life is like an Epic Tale from the moment we are born to the day we die. Marriage is also an Epic tale; it can be long or tragically short. I hope to save people’s Marriages with this Essay.

With these Pointers and Homework, I will give you in this Essay, I hope to help you live a happy and prosperous marriage that will be the longest and most enjoyable journey of your lives.

One of these tips is an essential part of a marriage and life in general. This Exercise will define and shape your lives; you can go back and look at the moments in time and see what worked and what went wrong. They will help you think, “How could I have handled the situation differently, and what would have happened if I did the exact opposite?”

Now, you are asking yourself, “What is he talking about?”

Well, the answer to your question is straightforward and painless. You can start today by keeping what I call, The Matrimonial Journal or Diary. The Purpose is to Chronological History of your lives for Marriage is a lifetime commitment. The Matrimonial Journal or Diary will last you a lifetime from the day you say, “I do!” And will last until one or both of you pass from this life into the next.

The best thing about a Matrimonial Journal or Diary is that both people can participate in the Exercise of writing in the Journal or Diary as a couple. The Purpose is to Chronicle your life, both the Highlights and Lowlights in your lives. You can go over what you have written on any given day and see what worked or went wrong on a particular day or event.

Doing so; will help you communicate freely and openly. Damaging or defacing the Matrimonial Journey or Diary is Sacrilege. The Purpose of the Matrimonial Journal or Diary is to help you maintain a healthy relationship.

Attacking the Matrimonial Journal or Diary proves that you are unfit to call yourself a Husband or Wife and are no better than a Beast incapable of love.

I hope you will avoid harming your Chronological History and continue to live a happy life together. I see so many relationships end because one or the other loses their love for one another because they don’t know how to express themselves constructively. In the end, these relationships fail because Communication has failed, leading to the death of the Marriage. And in some cases, the death of the one they professed to have once loved.

The Matrimonial Journal or Diary will give the Couple a chance to talk and discuss what’s bothering them and work on making changes. It is the effort of wanting to change and work things out that will make the Relationship healthier and prosperous.

Now I know you must be asking yourself, “If this man has never even kissed a girl once in his life. How the hell can he preach the things that he does, and what right does he have to say these things?”

Well, that is a good question, and the answer is I have read a lot of Paranormal Romance and other types of Fiction that deal with relationships. Another thing I have done is watch and read a lot of True Crime Novels and Documentaries. I have seen what happens in a relationship when Communication fails in the Marriage.

The husband or the wife will grow distant and even start to resent his or her spouse. I have seen and studied what succeeded and failed in a relationship. I have also seen the consequences of such a failure.

I hope with this Exercise I can prevent such a thing from happening and help you to live a happy life with your better half. It is not just your Relationship that suffers but the relationships of your children that suffer as well.

One of the most influential books I have read dealt with a relationship that lasted until the death of both spouses due to old age. It was the Matrimonial Journal or Diary that helped the Couple live a long and happy life.

That book is a Novel by Bernard Doove titled “Life’s Dream.” Life’s Dream is a type of Furry Fiction about a man who was heading into the wilderness to commit suicide due to the betrayal of his wife, who left him destitute with nothing but the clothes on his back. By chance, the man runs into a Foxtaur Vixen and saves her life from certain death.

The Vixen takes him home with her to her village of Foxtaurs and asks him to marry her. He says yes, and they live a long, happy, and prosperous life together until their deaths.

Now one of the Important things about the Novel is the happy Couple would sit down and work on a Diary of their lives where both of them would write in it and chronicle their lives. Together they would chronicle dual entries, highlighting both the best of times and worst of times and documenting how they worked through their adversities as a loving and understanding couple.

By the time I finished reading Life’s Dream, I was on the verge of tears, so if you want to check out Life’s Dream for yourselves, I’ll understand. I highly recommend reading this story. Life’s Dream is the best Novel I have ever read. The novel deals with relationships that I wish humans would learn to live and practice, and then maybe there will be fewer divorces.

Let’s face it; Divorce hurts the entire family and pits couples against each other, and that in turn passes on to the children who go on hating one of both parents, leading to drinking and drug use to cope with the pain.

In more severe cases, pit family against each other, and sometimes God forbid, this could lead to the deaths of family members that a parent and loved one is supposed to protect.

I have seen this play out numerous times in both Fiction and True Life shows. I don’t want to see you; the readers face such a scenario. I want to bring Peace and Tranquility to the Relationship, not Strife and Discord.

The Purpose of this Essay is to help get people to bury their Pride; by learning to talk to each other and works things out. Reading Life’s Dream by Bernard Doove and completing the Exercises in Writing in a Journal or Diary will teach you pointers of how to trust one another and work things out.

The Matrimonial Journal or Diary is a Personal History of the Couple’s Lives, and it will eventually help them to be better Spouses as well as Parents. It is from Parents that Children learn how to treat one another as the “First Lesson” of life. So, if there is Strife and Discord between the Parents, then there will be Strife and Discord between the kids as well.

It is no wonder that there will be Strife and Discord in any relationship that our kids find themselves in.

There must be free and open Communication between the Spouses in order for the Relationship to be successful. If free and open Communication fails in a relationship, so too does the Relationship.

Free and Open Communication is the bedrock of a Civilized Society. It is no wonder that the same is true in a Marriage. I may ever have been in any Relationship, but I do understand what it means to be open in our thoughts as well as our expressions. Our Society is founded on the Free Exchange of Ideas. It is no wonder the Guide to a Successful Relationship is also true.

You can see these truths in our Literature. Relationships either succeed or fail; most assuredly, it is because of the Failure of Communication. The same is true for the Success or Failure of Societies. Isolationism leads to Failure and Destruction.

The same is true for Relationships and Marriages.

J. C. Jenkins Jr

4/27/2022